I’ve been married for 7 years and although I love my husband very much, for as long as I can remember I’ve been attracted to other women. I have a computer at home and last month I started “chatting” on the Internet to another bi-sexual woman, also married. We get on great, have swapped photos and she calls me at work. We’re very attracted to each other and want to meet. Her husband is fine about this but mine doesn’t know about my feelings for other women and it’s not something I could tell him. Do I keep in touch and hope I don’t get found out or give her up? I hate being dishonest.
You’ve already kept one secret from him, that you’re bi-sexual. See her on the sly and you’ll have another. Secrets in a relationship are always destructive and the burden of lies and deceit may well destroy your marriage and your peace of mind. But just giving her up won’t solve the main problem, which is that there is a major part of your self and your life that you are keeping hidden and unacknowledged. Sooner or later this is going to come out. Surely it would be better to do it sooner, in a way that is under your control.
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